Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth (Colossians 3:2 NKJV).
For many years, i asked God to touch my brothers heart so he could assist me financially by paying school fees for one of my children who had been admitted to a local public university.
This particular brother had the financial means of assisting me, and i believed he was the only one God could use to uplift me.
How wrong i was! This led to many years of me going round the same circle. Wasted time!
I speak to a number of young women, and majority have a similar mindset on their desired spouse. He must be good looking, own a good car, live in an affluent area, have a great job or own a vibrant business. I do not blame their short sightedness in their vision. They desire what they see in todays world. They see couples who are well to do in Church and everywhere else. And unfortunately, the society today believes that success is mainly having a large mansion, big cars and millions in your account.
Evidently, most of these young women desire what the public defines as the perfect life. Meaning their desires are rooted in their minds, and not in their hearts.
The Bible tells us clearly, that God gives us the desires of our hearts. Psalms 37:4
God does not want us to want what we see with others, because He created us differently and will bless us differently. But ultimately, His plans for your future are perfect. He does not need our help by praying for Him to give us a particular spouse because of his visible riches. God sees our hearts, and someones outlook does not necessarily reveal their inner person. When you ask God to give you a spouse, you should not dictate to Him, in this way, God will give you the perfect person for you. They may not be what you envisioned, from my experiance, Gods choices may look quite absurd to our human mind. But, when you seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness, everything else shall be added unto you. This applies even in whatever you need in life. All you need is to trust Him, completely. For nothing is impossible for Him. Luke 1:37
We should never base our desires on other peoples lives, or riches. It is wise to ask God to bless us according to His will for us. You may be admiring what someone else has, craving and praying for it. And not getting it because it is not Gods will for you, yet, Gods will for you is much more than you can imagine. And all He does is wait for you to get the revelation and allow Him to have His way in your life.
that’s why it is essential that we renew our minds so we can see the bigger picture. The more we focus on God and magnify Him in our lives the clearer His will for us becomes.
May He enable me to seek Him with all my heart and mind!